Online Relationship and Couples Counselling

For when the same arguments keep happening, or the distance between you has grown too wide to ignore.

 

Relationships can be the hardest thing.

The people we're closest to are also the ones who can hurt us most. That's not a flaw in the relationship. It's just what happens when we let someone matter.

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Maybe you and your partner keep ending up in the same argument, no matter how it starts. Maybe you feel more like housemates than partners. Maybe one of you wants to talk and the other shuts down, and you've both stopped trying quite as hard as you used to.

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Or maybe it's not a romantic relationship at all. Maybe it's a friendship that's fractured, a family dynamic that's always been difficult, or a working relationship that's become untenable.

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Relationship counselling, whether individual or couples, can help you understand what's going on beneath the surface. And begin to do something different.

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What brings people to relationship counselling?

People come for many different reasons:

• The same arguments, playing out again and again with no resolution

• Feeling unheard, dismissed, or like you can't say what you really think

• A loss of closeness or intimacy, and not knowing how to find your way back

• One partner wanting to talk about problems, the other withdrawing

• Trust that has been damaged, and uncertainty about whether it can be rebuilt

• A significant life change that has put strain on the relationship

• Feeling stuck in patterns with family members, friends, or colleagues

• Wanting to understand your own role in relationship difficulties

• A relationship that is ending, and needing support to navigate that

 

You don't need to be in crisis to come to counselling. Some people come because they want to invest in something that matters to them before it gets harder.

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Individual relationship counselling

You don't need your partner to come with you to benefit from relationship therapy. Working individually, we can explore the patterns in your relationships and where they may have come from.

 

Often our ways of relating to others are rooted in early experiences. How we learnt to attach, how conflict was handled around us, what we understood love to look like. These patterns follow us into adult relationships without us realising, and they can be changed once we can see them clearly.

 

Individual sessions give you space to think about what you need and want, what you're willing to offer, and how you want to show up in your relationships. That clarity can transform the way you connect with others, whether or not they come to therapy themselves.

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Couples therapy

In couples sessions, the focus is on what happens between you. Not whose fault it is. Not who needs to change most. But the dynamic that develops between two people, and how to shift it.

 

We'll look at the patterns in your communication. What you're each trying to say when things get heated. What gets in the way of feeling close. And how you can begin to respond to each other differently, so that difficult moments feel less like battles and more like something you're facing together.

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Couples therapy isn't just for relationships in crisis. It's also for couples who want to communicate better, who are navigating a significant transition, or who want to invest in their relationship before things get harder.

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Why online?

All sessions take place via Zoom. For couples, this is often easier to manage practically. No need to travel together or find a clinic that works for both your schedules. You can join from home, or from separate locations if that feels more comfortable for a first session.

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For individuals, online counselling offers flexibility and privacy. You can speak from wherever feels right, without the logistics adding another layer of pressure.

 

About Lucy

I'm Lucy Bello, an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist. I work with both individuals and couples on relationship difficulties of all kinds. I trained in couples therapy alongside my individual counselling practice, and relationship patterns are central to much of the work I do.

 

I'm a registered member of the BACP. I work collaboratively and without judgement, and I'm experienced in holding space for difficult conversations where there are two very different perspectives in the room.

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If you'd like to find out more, I offer a free 20-minute initial session with no commitment and no pressure.

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